How to Find the Right Counsellor

Finding the right counsellor is important. Research consistently tells us that a strong therapeutic relationship is one of the most important predictors of positive outcomes in counselling (Opland & Torrico, 2024). So... if finding the "right" counsellor is important, how do we even do this???

You might be spending time searching for "counsellors near me" reviewing website after website, or scrolling forums looking for recommendations, maybe feeling unsure of how to choose, or even what to look for. The reality is that there really is no right or wrong, and it is a deeply personal decision. Your neighbours "right" counsellor might not be yours. The counsellor with the year long waitlist with all the credentials and specialisations or huge social media following might be yours, or might not be. We might even have a few "right" counsellors across our life, or return to the same one as needed time and time again.

Here are some things to reflect and think about while you're on the journey of finding your counsellor.

What are you looking for?

Take some time to reflect and think about what you are hoping for, what you need support with, or what you want to work on. Whether it is managing anxiety, a big life transition, grief, identity stuff, stress management tools, navigating your 20's. Or even if it is a specific modality, whether they offer online counselling or, work with a certain scheme (such as, The NSW Victims Support Scheme). Some people have preferences on the age, gender, lived experience etc of the counsellor. Being clear on this can help you tailor your search.

If you’re not sure that is totally okay too! Sometimes, just having a safe space to let it all out and sort through your feelings can give you clarity.

Trust Your Gut!

You know yourself better than anyone (even if this feels wobbly). All the credentials and specialisations won’t matter as much as how you feel when talking to them.

If you feel heard, supported, and understood, that’s often a great sign. It might take a few tries (or maybe it won't), but when you know, you know. If your counsellor doesn’t feel like the perfect fit, you can even talk to them about this. They won't be offended - counsellors understand it’s not personal and it is part of the process - they may even be able to help you connect with someone else, or mix things up to better suit you!

The Discovery Call:

While this may be listed as a few different things (such as, Introductory Call or Exploratory Session etc) some counsellors offer a short (often 10 minutes), confidential chat aimed at helping you get a sense of whether they are the right fit for you and your needs.

In this call you could ask:

1. How would you describe your approach?

2. How will we be working together?

3. What are your fees and cancellation policy?

4. How long are sessions?

5. Based on what I've shared, do you think we're a good fit?

6. If you have specific preferences, you could ask about them such as; Do you provide culturally responsive or LGBTIQA+ affirming care?

   Do you incorporate mindfulness, SFBT, ACT, or other specific approaches?

   How do you adapt your approach for Neurodivergent clients?

   Are you comfortable discussing spirituality or faith if it's relevant to me?

After the call, you may reflect and ask yourself:

1. Did I feel listened to and respected?

2. Did they answer my questions clearly?

3. Did I feel comfortable being honest with them?

4. Did their approach match what I'm looking for?

5. Can I imagine building trust with this person over time?

Getting Started Is Easier Than You Think:

Finding the right counsellor might take a little trial and error, but it’s worth it when you find someone who truly gets you.

If you're looking for someone who believes that counselling is not about changing who you are but is instead an opportunity to reconnect with all parts of self in a way that feels safe, honest, and meaningful. Or someone who draws upon a number of evidence-based modalities, but firmly believes the most important part of the therapeutic work is the relationship she builds with each individual. Or maybe someone offer a space to explore, process, and make sense of your experiences. A space where you can work towards getting clear on what you want and where you want to be going. Where you can gain skills, knowledge and resources that help you move towards what is most meaningful to you. Or.... someone who posts maybe one too many pictures of Snoopy on her work Instagram... then maybe Counsellor Katie is for you.

You can book a session, or email info@counsellorkatie.com.au for a free, confidential Discovery Call.

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